“My Bad” and the issue of Sincere Accountabilty

Many people make mistakes. Things often get broken; Things often get lost; Things often get ruined. People who depend on those things often have to go without these things until a replacement is found. Sometimes these things seem trivial, like a 10 mm socket wrench forgotten at a worksite, or a busted handle on a BBQ lid. However sometimes these things are critical such as a vehicle engine that’s blown because someone forgot to top up the oil, or a broken window latch for a window during the coldest months of the year. Either way it’s understandable when mistakes happen.
Where things go bad is when something happens and nothing is said. The person(s) may decide it’s better to calmly walk away and pretend nothing happened. Often it’s fear that motivates one to avoid fessing up to their mistake. The fear of loosing someone’s trust is a powerful force.
Sometimes people mangle something beyond repair and may phone the owner or FB message them with a minimalist projection of the actual situation. They may hope to be gone from the scene of the incident before the owner gets back or they may sit and await and weather the storm when the owner returns.
Sometimes things are lost, broken, or ruined and the person(s) responsible may decide to just not say anything until the safety leave locale where this occurred. The owner might not notice that something is wrong until the actually need the object that was lost/broken/ruined.
None of these situations are alright. The problem is not the object, it is the accountability for those responsible. A far too common phrase used by many today us the term “MY BAD”. The term “My Bad” assumes some responsibility but it negates accountability. This is not cool. It’s not cool at all.
It is an old fashioned practice that my late father taught to me to own up to a mistake right away. Own up to a mistake and ask if there is a way for you to help remedy the situation so that trust is maintained and nurtured. This practice embeds a high level of respect and accountability. It teaches us to exercise humility and care. These are qualities which we can all benefit from.
So next time, and there will be many next times, own up to what happened right away and never use the term “My Bad”.
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